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Slept poorly last night and woke up at 3:30 am. I got [livejournal.com profile] careswen off to work and laid back down, but couldn't get back to sleep. Had breakfast, packed my bag, and headed in downtown Hopkins to run errands.

Went to Wells Fargo to deposit check, stopped at Driskoll's for some groceries, went into Snyder's Drugs for Dayquil and Nyquil. On the bus and heading home.

Unzipped my bag top and reached for my keys. They were gone. Went to garage and retrieved the extra set, opened the door, put away the groceries (discovering in the process I bought the wrong cheese) and looked for keys. Nothing.

Sigh and trudge back to bus stop. Looked for keys. Nothing. Get on the bus, which happens to be the same bus I rode home on. No keys. Retraced footsteps all over Hopkins, asking in various stories if anyone had turned in a set of keys. Nothing. No keys anywhere. Stop by police station and fill out report on my lost keys. Walk out to the street and watch bus home fly by. Walk home. With no keys.

Come inside, kick off shoes, start kettle of water, sit down at table, boot up laptop, and step on something hard under the table. Find keys.

So I decide to treat myself to lunch, since I found my keys. I walk over to the deli and order a gyro and start home.

As I'm walking down the sidewalk of the strip mall, I get accosted by a man, dressed professionally in slacks, tie and jacket, who, in a nasty, snarly voice, demands to know were I got the white cane.

From my rehab school, I tell him.

Man then accuses me of stealing the cane, because obviously I can see.

Try to patiently explain about my vision and that yes, I have some forward vision, but I have no peripheral vision and I'm legally blind.

Man calls me a liar and thief and advances on me.

I take a step backward and look for nearest door I can dive into to get away from the crazy man.

He steps toward me again as I try to retreat toward a door. He cuts me off from the first door I reach.

I'm starting to get pissed and ask him to please get out of my space. He gives me an arrogant look and shows me his cell phone, threatening to call the police.

I tell him I think that's a great idea. I say, "Let's step inside this place (I nod to the Chinese restaurant) and you can call the police and we can let them sort it out."

I reach for the door to the restaurant.

He grabs my sleeve.

I yank it away from him and say in my calmest voice, "Please don't touch me." I step into him.

He takes a step backwards and I slip into the Chinese restaurant. The dude rabbits. Jumps in a white SUV and drives south.

The whole time this encounter is happening, the animal part of my back-brain is saying, "Michael, you're four inches taller and about 70 pounds heavier than this guy. Put your stick on him and drive his sorry ass into the wall."

But I didn't, because that would have just escalated the encounter, making it worse. Though I think if he'd grabbed me again, all bets would have been off at that point.

And now I need to clean house.

And prep for gaming tomorrow.

And try to squeeze in some writing.

And take some drugs for the ick.

Today is going to get better, right?
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Date: 2007-01-05 06:54 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] redheadedali.livejournal.com
Gah. All of that sucks mightily. I hope the rest of your day is better.

*hugs*

Date: 2007-01-05 07:34 pm (UTC)

Date: 2007-01-05 06:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sartorias.livejournal.com
Good grief! May this horrid day have used up your entire year's worth of bad luck!!!!!!!

Date: 2007-01-05 07:35 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] mmerriam.livejournal.com
I'm not going back out there today if I can avoid it.

Date: 2007-01-05 06:57 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] damncutekitty.livejournal.com
OK so the dude thought you were faking blind so he attacked you? Pardon my french, but what a jackass.

Next time, go Daredevil on the guy.

Date: 2007-01-05 07:36 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] mmerriam.livejournal.com
I'm still unclear as to what he thought to accomplish. If I am blind, it just makes him a jackass. If I'm not blind, I way too big for him to take unless he's James Bond or Shaft or soemthing.

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Date: 2007-01-05 07:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] maryjdal.livejournal.com
For sure. Sounds like you handled that situation well.

Date: 2007-01-05 07:37 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] mmerriam.livejournal.com
I just had to stay calm. I've had people challenge me before about my vision, but never so violently.

Date: 2007-01-05 07:18 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] boy-pastiche.livejournal.com
*horrified* what a jerk!

Date: 2007-01-05 07:38 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] mmerriam.livejournal.com
Well, what goes around, comes around.

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Date: 2007-01-05 07:24 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] aliettedb.livejournal.com
The nerve of some people...
Congratulations on keeping your calm, because in your place I would have been very, very seriously tempted to give in to anger/violence.

Date: 2007-01-05 07:39 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] mmerriam.livejournal.com
Now that I'm calmer, I'm mostly just boggled about what he could have hoped to accomplish.

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Date: 2007-01-05 07:39 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] mmerriam.livejournal.com
*shrug* Who knows. People are stupid.

Date: 2007-01-05 07:29 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] jmeadows.livejournal.com
Argh. That's crazy. What a day.

Yes, it will get better. *hugs*

Date: 2007-01-05 07:40 pm (UTC)

Date: 2007-01-05 07:37 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] songwind.livejournal.com
I hate it when I lose something and find it somewhere else that I would never have believed I even had it. Or after leaving it at home when I'm mortally certain I took it with me.

Sorry to hear about your bizarro encounter. Do you get accosted like that frequently?

Date: 2007-01-05 07:42 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] mmerriam.livejournal.com
When I put my foot on them, I almost laughed at how stupid the whole situation was.

I've been verbally challenged before, but I've never had anyone get quite so crazy on me.

Date: 2007-01-05 07:47 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mrissa.livejournal.com
The whole time this encounter is happening, the animal part of my back-brain is saying, "Michael, you're four inches taller and about 70 pounds heavier than this guy. Put your stick on him and drive his sorry ass into the wall."

Ahhh. This is the difference between you and me: it was the human part of my forebrain saying that.

Date: 2007-01-05 08:03 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] mmerriam.livejournal.com
I just have no idea what this person thought they were doing.

I think when I step into him and was suddenly towering over his smaller frame, he realized what a dumb-ass thing he'd done.

Date: 2007-01-05 07:51 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] haddayr.livejournal.com
Oh my god what an insane, miserable man! I am so sorry this happened to you. Sheesh. I cannot BELIEVE he grabbed you. What an incredibly crazy person.

Yes. I magically pronounce that today will get better.

Date: 2007-01-05 08:04 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] mmerriam.livejournal.com
I'm still boggled by the whole encounter.

Date: 2007-01-05 07:53 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] haddayr.livejournal.com
Okay. I just read the other comments and saw that you've been confronted on your sight before. WHAT?!?!?

I am legally blind without my glasses/contacts, and a friend of mine once accused me of faking it when I dropped my black glasses into my black-clad lap and and couldn't find them without some fiddling. I was FURIOUS. I can't imagine if strangers did it on a regular basis. Why would they? What on earth are they thinking?

Date: 2007-01-05 08:05 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] mmerriam.livejournal.com
I guess it's because I don't always look "blind" whatever that means. And since I still retain some vision, and I've learned to move smoothly through space I cannot see, they assume I'm faking it or something.

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Date: 2007-01-05 07:54 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] buymeaclue.livejournal.com
Jackass, indeed.

(Him, not you.)

Boo on him!

Date: 2007-01-05 08:06 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] mmerriam.livejournal.com
Boo on him, indeed.

Date: 2007-01-05 08:31 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mylefteye.livejournal.com
Your experience, Mike, highlights one of my fears about carrying a white cane. Jill (my wife) is insistent that I should carry it at all times, but I can't help worrying what other people will make of me when I behave as they'd expect a sighted man to behave. I don't think I'd handle that situation as well as you did.

Oh, and speaking of disbelievers. I was struggling to find a contact lens that had popped out and landed on the desk in front of me. The woman with me said, "Oh come on, you're not that blind!" She was my optician.

Date: 2007-01-05 08:41 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] mmerriam.livejournal.com
That was probably the worse situation I've ever enountered. Usually if I just calmly explain my situation to them, that's enough (though it does get a bit trying sometimes).

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How to face the pride thing

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Date: 2007-01-05 08:36 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] congofriend.livejournal.com
How awful! And what a jerk!

Date: 2007-01-05 08:42 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] mmerriam.livejournal.com
I just have to trust that Karma will get him in the end.

Date: 2007-01-05 08:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] careswen.livejournal.com
Oh how awful!! I'm so sorry. What a jerk he was. I can't fathom the juxtaposition of someone being a concerned citizen in such a rude way. I don't get why on earth wouldn't he just believe you, or at least just mind his own business.

How about I pick up some dinner or we order pizza or something? You've had a hard enough day. I'd cook for ya, but well, how does grilled cheese sound?

Love you!!

Date: 2007-01-05 08:45 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] mmerriam.livejournal.com
Thanks for the offer. I have something simple planned for tonight, so it's all good. It looks like we might be calling out for chinese on game day, and I don't want to spend too much money on eating out.

Gah!

Date: 2007-01-05 09:17 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dlandon.livejournal.com
What an asshole! People can be such self-righteous pricks.

I have to say I'm dreading this one when Matt gets his handicap parking permit, because if it's not a bad day for him he just looks like he's walking a little wobbly, and I'm waiting for the time I have to lay the smackdown on some nosy, interfering...

yeah. Anyway, hope the day gets better -

D

Re: Gah!

Date: 2007-01-05 09:33 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] mmerriam.livejournal.com
It can be hard sometimes, especially if you don't look "disabled" (whatever that means) to the able-bodied public.

Date: 2007-01-05 10:09 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] cakmpls.livejournal.com
Now that's just downright weird behavior.

What do you want to bet that they guy has illegitimately parked in a handicapped-only space a time or two?

Date: 2007-01-05 10:14 pm (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] mmerriam.livejournal.com
I would not be surprised to discover he has. Now that I am away from the immediacy of the situation, it real seems odd. Almost surreal.

Date: 2007-01-05 10:48 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] navicat.livejournal.com
*hugs*

I swear, sometimes, people...I just don't understand what is WRONG with them!

I hope you spent the rest of the day chilling or writing.

Date: 2007-01-06 12:27 am (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] mmerriam.livejournal.com
I've off for the entire day, listless and kind of flat feeling. Then I found out UPS lost the box with all of our Christmas presents in it.

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Date: 2007-01-05 11:59 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sksperry.livejournal.com
As you may have guessed, I'm am not the most...um...turn the other cheek kind of guy.

I would have kicked his ass but good. Obviously this jerk needs to be reminded of his rightful place in the world. Can you imagine his embarrassment on learning that he did, in fact, get his ass kicked while assaulting a blind man?

And it wouldn't even be bad karma for you. Consider it a life lesson. *g*

Date: 2007-01-06 12:10 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] careswen.livejournal.com
Can you imagine his embarrassment on learning that he did, in fact, get his ass kicked while assaulting a blind man?

Yeah, he might as well turn in his testicles right away, and get it over with. >:)

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Date: 2007-01-06 12:09 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] greykev.livejournal.com
I'm happy you found your keys at least. Hope things improve from here-out. And that stupid UPS finds your package forthwith.

-K

Date: 2007-01-06 12:30 am (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] mmerriam.livejournal.com
UPS better find that package. I worked a lot of years in freight logistics, and I know how to get under their skin if I have to.

Date: 2007-01-06 12:44 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] stillnotbored.livejournal.com
My grandmother had macular degeneration. She was in her 70's when it started and all the laser treatments were useless. She ended up losing a lot of her independence and spending her last years living with her son.

Grandma, being the most feisty of women, fought to do all she could do with the sight she had left for as long as she could. She got one of those big, high power magnifying glasses and wore it around her neck when she went shopping or out to eat so she could read things herself. She got a small pair of binoculars so she could see the light change and cross the street.

When she couldn't read anymore, she turned to books on tape so the world didn't close in on her completely.

And people, strangers, got annoyed with this tiny, white haired old woman over all of it. She couldn't see the impatience and the pure annoyance on the faces of the sales clerks and the waitresses, but I could. My grandmother was losing her sight and her independence and they couldn't wait 30 seconds for her to figure things out on her own. I wanted to deck every single one of them.

The petty, vindictive part of me wishes you had knocked this clown on his ass. And then maybe stepped on him a few times, for yourself and my grandmother. The part of me that understands the human mind knows that for what ever reason he chose to accost you, they were his issues and had nothing to do with you. That part of me pities him, for his world is more limited than yours will ever be.

I'm sorry there are jerks like this in the world and that you have to deal with them. Take heart in knowing that you are the better person. ::hugs::

Date: 2007-01-06 02:18 am (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] mmerriam.livejournal.com
I know how frustrating it can be, dealing with the impatience of store clerks, or having the clerk or waitress ask the people you're with what you'd like, or having people talk loud and slow, like you're a child.

Date: 2007-01-06 04:49 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] wordswoman.livejournal.com
If you see him again, Michael, stick that white cane where the sun don't shine.

After reading your list of woes, I can just about PROMISE that tomorrow will be better for you!

Date: 2007-01-06 05:58 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] wordswoman.livejournal.com
P.S. Have you ever considered writing something for the Star-Trib about R.P. and your experiences living with it? You write eloquently on the subject, and this unfortunate encounter today would be a dramatic moment to include.

When life hands you lemons...

Date: 2007-01-06 10:04 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] careswen.livejournal.com
I have often encouraged him to write and shop around a piece about his experiences. I keep telling him, "You're a human interest story!" -- which generally makes him shudder a bit, but he forgives me.

Glad I'm not the only one who thinks so!

Date: 2007-01-06 05:09 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] kythiaranos.livejournal.com
I'm sorry life's been rough on you lately. I hope things are better today.
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